Three Tips to Make You Better in Bed

We asked a sex educator what her three most important tips are for men between the sheets.

From surprising arousal facts to how to use a specific kind of pillow to your advantage – here’s how you can elevate your performance in the bedroom.

1. Enjoy the Warm-Up

Foreplay is not just a prelude to the main event; it's an essential part of the sexual experience – especially for women. In fact, most women require at least 10 minutes of warm-up to get fully aroused (and sometimes even longer as we age).

What are you after, exactly? Proper blood flow. From enhancing sensitivity to literally elongating the vagina, blood flow is what translates to arousal (aka comfortable and pleasurable intimacy). 

The good news is that you can start getting things going before you even get to bed. Holding hands, caressing her back, touching the nape of her neck – little, intentional moments of connection are all part of the warm-up period. 

But to really get to a place of true arousal, the best in bed know to take advantage of two things: heat and vibration. That’s why our expert recommends The Nuri. 

This silky, discreet vibrating wand massager has five speeds and an optional warming feature designed specifically to promote blood flow and orgasm. It’s a crowd pleaser. 

2. “Don’t Stop” Means Don’t Change a Thing

When she says “don’t stop,” it’s a clear signal that you’ve hit the right spot. This is your cue to maintain exactly what you’re doing. Don’t speed up, slow down, or alter your rhythm in any way. Consistency is the name of the game.

All too often, we get caught up in the moment and think that more intensity or speed will “get her there”. But, our expert reminds us that the steady rhythm and pressure makes all the difference. Listen to her cues and resist the urge to change things up. Unless, of course, she says otherwise…

3. Know the Right Angles

Great sex is all about the angles. According to our expert, many of our go-to positions are not only not working but can be painful for partners. To solve for this, she recommends using a wedge pillow. According to her, wedge pillows can make intercourse more comfortable and satisfying – for both of you.

But not all wedge pillows are made equal. Many are overly firm, uncomfortable, and quite frankly hideous. That’s why she says every man needs The Prim – a throw pillow that doubles as a luxurious intimacy pillow. Made with dual memory foam and a washable linen cover, The Prim gives your favorite positions a 7 in lift which can (surprisingly) make a world of difference. 

Try it under her hips to better hit *the spot*.

Try it under your hips to take pressure off her knees. 

Try it between her knees while spooning to accommodate different hip widths. 

According to our expert, this pillow trick makes penetration feel deeper, more comfortable, and satisfying. It’s a win-win-win. 

If you’re thinking, “Why do I need a special pillow? I have a million on my bed.” The answer is pretty simple. Ordinary pillows aren’t designed to support your weight and movement during sex and they don’t give you the right angle. 

With its patented design, The Prim is specifically made for your favorite activity. It’s truly a bedroom staple.

And people seem to really like it.